In yesterday's post, I revealed that it has taken me two years to complete my first book An Organized World.
I also acknowledged I experienced many of the same excuses that derailed me from completing my book as one may experience during the process of trying to declutter and organize their home.
Another hindrance I encountered throughout my journey took precedence over any excuse I was able to come up with. On numerous occasions, this roadblock paralyzed me from moving forward, as it does to many of my clients that I have helped through the organizing process.
Can you guess what this roadblock is?
It's name is FEAR.
While I began to make small strides in completing my book, whenever I felt uncomfortable, I would let fear take control and prevent me from moving forward. The many fears I experienced along the way included:
- The fear of the unknown: Can I really learn the technology needed to make An Organized World come alive?
- Stepping out of my comfort zone: I am uncomfortable speaking in front of groups as well as interviewing strangers over the phone.
- The fear of failure and or rejection: What if nobody likes my book or what if no organizers wanted to take part in An Organized World.
- The Fear of success: What if the book is successful, am I ready or have the confidence to handle that? That might lead to more speaking engagements, which will force me to take even bigger steps outside of my comfort zone.
Do any of these fears resonate with you?
- The fear of the unknown: I have lived with clutter and chaos for so many years that I don't know how to live any other way.
- Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: I will feel uncomfortable as new systems are introduced in my life or I will finally have to address what has kept me living like this for so long.
- The fear of failure and or rejection: I have tried before and failed. If this happens again, I don't want my family and friends to be disappointed in me.
- The Fear of success: Will my life change when my home becomes organized? Am I ready to confront who I really am underneath all this clutter? Am I ready to accept the many positive changes that will enter my life?
Like a deer caught in the headlights, these fears really can stop us in our tracks and prevent us from taking a leap forward towards success.
So how did I conquer the fear?
I had to find my reasons WHY?....
It's sad to say that I really didn't have the self-confidence in myself to making my dreams of creating this book come true.
It took a lot of courage to prove to myself that I could do it. I also wanted to set an example to my children that anything is possible if you put your mind to it.
There was one more WHY that was the final catalyst that brought this project to completion. Every year I dread the entire month of June. It brings with it joy as well as pain. While my sister and I both celebrate our births in June, we also feel the grief of the passing of both my mother and father during this month. How ironic is that?
I finally decided to put all excuses aside and made June 17, 2013 a year I would never forget. I would celebrate my 50th birthday with a huge milestone by completing An Organized World. My why was to transform a bittersweet month into a month of reflection and celebration, knowing that my mother and father are smiling down from Heaven.
Now it's your turn.
Make a list of the many whys you wish to obtain the organized and clutter-free home of your dreams.
- Do you wish to put an end to tensions amongst family members due to clutter?
- Do you want to increase your savings account?
- Do you want to gain more energy in your life and or improve your health?
- Do you wish to enjoy more quality time with your family?
- Would you love to find time to pursue your dream and passions?
- Do you want to truly discover who you are and what you are capable of?
Only you can determine your why, but if you write them out, you will build up the excitement needed and momentum needed to keep you working towards your desired goal.
Now that you know my excuses as well as my fears, there is still one more debilitating roadblock that I had to break through to take my book to the finish line.
Can you guess what it is? I will expose that my final installment of this blog post series.
Whatever fear may be standing in your way, here's a famous quote that I would like to leave you with today. "The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt